icon hasn’t had sex in two years as she steps back into nurturing friendships.
The singer, 35, is firmly back in the spotlight , as N-Dubz burst back onto the scene after an 11-year hiatus.
After an absolutely massive comeback tour, more shows ongoing and another tour set for next year, the trio are basking in the recent, which is shooting up the charts.
N-Dubz are now busier than ever, but that’s , as she describes herself as being ‘celibate’ for two years and doesn’t plan to have sex again until she’s in a committed and monogamous relationship.
In a new interview, the Secrets singer said she has ‘been celibate for the past two years so no sex before monogamy,’ adding: ‘I don’t date, I court.’
‘So basically you are courting because you like to build friendships before you start dating, you just don’t shag them and you get to know them.’
She added to the: ‘I’ve got friendships that I’m building.’
This might not actually come as news to dedicated N-Dubz fans, as Tulisa’s parts of the tracks generally alluded to this way of thinking about relationships.
(The least subtle of this in Against All Odds skit Duku Man, where after Dappy describes his sexual escapades in absolutely gross detail, he declares: ‘I did ask Tulisa, and she told me that “I will never shag a man unless I love him!”‘)
Tulisa recently opened up to Metro.co.uk about the band’s return and what it means to them, admitting that feeling the love from the fans has been ‘life-saving’.
She said the fans’ constant support helped alleviate strains and anxieties from highly-publicised ‘drama’ from the last time she was in the spotlight – from X Factor bullying claims to a collapsed drug trial after a sting where a judge said she had been ‘cruelly deceived.’
‘So much celebrity happened over the years that it kind of got lost in translation. The general public will have a certain perception of me but an N-Dubz fan will know this completely different side of me, where you follow me on Instagram and see me doing stupid s***.
‘A hundred per cent there’s a massive misconception about me but not with N-Dubz fans. And that’s one thing that feels so amazing about being back. It’s very comforting to me. It feels like home, especially after what I went through for so many years.
‘So much anxiety built up, any time I went to do anything – whether it’s my own solo stuff or an appearance or even stepping on a TV show. I just felt like eyes are on me, the walls are up, the claws are out.
‘And coming back to N-Dubz is this feeling of freedom, where you’re just loved for what you do and the music you make. It’s actually allowed me to open up and be more vulnerable again.
‘I’ve gone from having a deactivated Instagram for years to now, doing the stupidest s*** ever that I wouldn’t usually do in my day-to-day life and sharing it with N-Dubz fans because it’s such a safe space I can actually feel like I’m allowed to be vulnerable and the real me comes out more.’
She added: ‘‘Honestly, N-Dubz fans the last year and a half have changed everything for me internally – my mental health, the way that I feel, the anxieties I’ve had, it’s completely been lifted, like a weight off my shoulders, because of interacting with N-Dubz fans. It’s life-saving s***.’
